Hi Deb. I forget where I found you, but I'm a UMW layperson.
I have been married almost 8 years. I'm an only child. We had a bigish wedding (~225). I was just reading your trials with the who to invite thing and all of that.
First off, congragulations! My parents were willing and able to put up the money for a big party, so we went along with it and had fun. But, at the end of it all, it is only one day. If you're wanting to cut costs a bit and pare down size, I say have a smaller wedding and do receptions for different groups, some time later. Like your church. You can't invite everyone. So, maybe have a picknic celebrating with your congregation. You know, same could be said for extended family/friends you're not super close to. You could have a larger, more casual reception with as many as you wanted, but a more intimate wedding day, if you're having trouble paring down the list. If I had it to do over again, I might consider something like that. We really enjoyed it. I wouldn't change it, per se. But looking back it just seems like a lot of money for one day. I was stressed out over table decorations! Who cares?? As you know, it's the marriage that counts.
Anyway, just my 2 cents. Do what you want to do. But don't feel obligated to have a huge wedding/reception for everyone you come in contact with. You could do something small and intimate for the day & save the stress. Have a bigger more casual reception for the endless guest list people.
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Hi Deb. I forget where I found you, but I'm a UMW layperson.
I have been married almost 8 years. I'm an only child. We had a bigish wedding (~225). I was just reading your trials with the who to invite thing and all of that.
First off, congragulations! My parents were willing and able to put up the money for a big party, so we went along with it and had fun. But, at the end of it all, it is only one day. If you're wanting to cut costs a bit and pare down size, I say have a smaller wedding and do receptions for different groups, some time later. Like your church. You can't invite everyone. So, maybe have a picknic celebrating with your congregation. You know, same could be said for extended family/friends you're not super close to. You could have a larger, more casual reception with as many as you wanted, but a more intimate wedding day, if you're having trouble paring down the list. If I had it to do over again, I might consider something like that. We really enjoyed it. I wouldn't change it, per se. But looking back it just seems like a lot of money for one day. I was stressed out over table decorations! Who cares?? As you know, it's the marriage that counts.
Anyway, just my 2 cents. Do what you want to do. But don't feel obligated to have a huge wedding/reception for everyone you come in contact with. You could do something small and intimate for the day & save the stress. Have a bigger more casual reception for the endless guest list people.
Good luck.
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